So many people today are starving. However, the greatest hunger is not for food, but rather for love. In the words of St. Theresa of Calcutta, “It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start.” So many people today are starving for love and acceptance. So many people live alone in their own homes with a spouse who either does not know how to feed them emotionally or who refuses to do so. This is a common theme I see in almost every couple that comes to see me in therapy. One or both feel little connection and love from their spouse, and every day the loneliness and hurt grows. But it doesn’t have to be this way. For the most part, both have it within themselves to change this if they can learn to listen, to understand, to feed, and to be thankful.
It is important for all of us to remember that building a Eucharistic Marriage, one that is giving and thankful to each other, as well as building a deeper relationship with Christ in the Mass and through the Catholic Church, cannot be done by our own strength and perseverance. It just can’t. We don’t have the strength, wisdom or detachment of sin needed to fully make this a reality. But the great news is that through God, all things are possible. God rains down on us an abundance of supernatural grace through all of the sacraments, especially the Eucharist and marriage. All we have to do is ask, seek, and knock: (Matthew 7:7-11) “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be open to you. For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. Which one of you would hand his son a stone when he asks for a loaf of bread, or a snake when he asks for a fish? If you then, who are wicked, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give good things to those who ask Him?” Our marriage comes with the promise of great spiritual help and guiding grace from God; all we have to do is ask! Grace perfects our nature, if only we allow it to enter into our lives.