John 9:35 – 41 – Jesus heard that they had driven him out (the healed blind man), and when he found him, he said, “Do you believe in the Son of Man?” He answered, “And who is he, sir? Tell me, so that I may believe in him.” Jesus said to him, “You have seen him, and the one speaking with you is he.” He said, “Lord, I believe.” And he worshiped him. Jesus said, “I came into this world for judgment so that those who do not see may see, and those who do see may become blind.” Some of the Pharisees near him heard this and said to him, “Surely we are not also blind, are we?” Jesus said to them, “If you were blind, you would have no sin; but now you are saying, ‘We see,’ so your sin remains.”
I don’t know how you feel about it, but doesn’t it just make you frustrated when you come across someone who tries to make you believe that they know…EVERYTHING? Or maybe, they really believe they know everything. I have had new employs, that I supervised, that start the job with a: “Oh I know that too” kind of attitude. This always frustrated the heck out of me because I felt like, they were either trying to look really smart on their first day or just trying to dismiss my help and direction. Either way, they were setting themselves up for a world of hurt.
As I’ve told my kids often, “if you think or act like you know everything, nobody will be able to teach you anything!” This attitude stems from pride and it is rooted either in the fear of looking stupid or the desire of being powerful. Either way, this can be destructive to friendships or to the work that God has ordained us to do. Isn’t this what Jesus was getting at when He confronted the Pharisees? Jesus’s words and actions moved the hearts of the lives He touched. Many flocked to Him because they literally were sheep without a shepherd. The Pharisees took up the positions of power and lorded it over the people that God gave them to serve. Jesus said, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, you hypocrites. You lock the kingdom of heaven before human beings. You do not enter yourselves, nor do you allow entrance to those trying to enter.” (Matt. 23:13-14) Because they got lost in being in a position of power and believed they knew so much about the ways of God (“We see”), they were unable to have hearts open to the Christ coming and truly teaching them about truth. And because of this, “their sin remains.”
How true it is of all of us when we have to be the one who is always right or the one who knows what is best. We can get so caught up in our own self-righteousness that we can become blind to the needs of the ones we are chosen to serve – our spouse and children. When this happens, we can find ourselves at odds with the very people that should mean the most to us. We should be opening our hearts to our family and especially our spouse, to understand their needs and struggles and brokenness, so that we can serve them through our healing hands. But this will never happen if we think we “know it all.”
We have to step back from our pride and feelings of righteousness, to truly listen to the heart of our spouse and what they are in need of. Just like the blind man who called out to Jesus. This man had been longing to see again and be free of the darkness that held him bound. He wanted to be heard for what his heart longed for the most, and Jesus heard his plea. As a good spouse, Jesus came to this man’s side and gave him a healing touch, as opposed to the Pharisees who did not lift a finger for this man nor even found joy in his ability to see again. They instead continued to embrace the darkness, and ridiculed anyone who tried to shed light on it. How often do we do the same? Do we have the ability to lay down our pride to just listen to those we love and to what it is they need? Do we have it within ourselves to admit we don’t have a clue, so that our hearts and ears can truly listen to what our spouse longs for from us….even if it is really hard to hear?